Friday, August 4
in recognition of dear grandma...
Life is short.
We have to learn how to forgive, though perhaps not forgotten, at least mature from it as positive individuals.God granted us with beautiful souls to comfort and sponge our tears.And to a certain extent, a fair amount of souls who tries to test our ultimate patience.
Fighting, ditching, dwelling and irrationalisation will only end up in a negative impact on both individuals involved. To start of, ask ourselves, what is our definition of friendship? Going through happiness together? Hurdling sadness which comes thereafter? Or blames each other for problems that surfaces unintentionally?
One thing i've learnt over the years is for the fact that one should never anticipate/ assume things and situations without first clarifying. what's the point in geting my heart all raced up and prepared to spurt unnecessary foul thoughts on people without even thinking and finding out the truth.
We're not living in a world where everyone thinks the same way and our first assumption usually proves us right. We're in a world which evolves around everyone, our parents, our siblings, our loved ones and not to forget, friends who adds spice into our youth life.
We're no longer in primary school or secondary school, where friendships are being placed on the shelves with expiry dates stuck on them like no other. We're in real involvement with our own emotions, be it with plain acquaintances or purely true friends. Getting back at one another with words and hurtful actions will only result in lost souls searching and twining around their own maze of problems created by themselves.
All problems (insyaAllah) are present to make us stronger, and when we finally emerge stronger, we'll realise how childish/matured we were in handling the situations. When it comes to a cliche term called bestfriends, and when a situation crops up in which both refuse to give in (one may feel they've been duped, the other may feel they're not in the wrong), ask ourselves again, what was the ONE thing that brought these two souls together?
Could it be the similarities we both share? or the acquainted differences which brings about communication and interests in knowing each other in a deeper perspective? Or could it be both? And for the fact that both parties are unable to come up with a solution, it only means their friendship requires more communication. The one factor that lacks. And communication implies the 'passenger-driver' technique, where one talks and the other listens + analyze its rationalism and vice versa.
It's not about bombarding one another and bringing one another down. It's not about who admits to their mistakes. it's about fixing the broken pieces together. it's about instilling mutual trust and forgiveness in each other. it's about realising each other's flaws and change for the better where possible. Change is constant. Think about it. I've lost a best friend once due to the male species of human.
But 2 years later, she came back into my life, finally matured and realise that the little pranks and remarks were meaningless and that the friendship deserves a second chance. And she wanted me to be at her engagement, with the same guy who tore our friendship apart. And yes, for that i thank God. Truly blissful. Please know that i'm not typing all these down to arrow at any particular individuals who may be going through emotional turmoils in their lives.
I'm typing this down because these advices came from an individual who shone the light of love on me and showed me how cruel the world can be. And this strong individual is my late grandmother, who left exactly today, 2 years ago, to be in arms of the Almighty, hopefully resting within the gates of heaven. Let's all learn to love and be matured. Life is short.
We don't live to punish others nor ourselves. Problems come and go, and with each problem, we'll realise that what doesn't kill us will eventually make us stronger spiritually and emotionally. Let's not allow our emotions overwhelm our judgements. Besides, problems will always be part of our life as long as we're breathing. And when we eventually return to the hands of God, we'll still have our afterlife question & answer session to handle.
For those who believe in the creator of the Almighty, trust Him and start to turn to him when in doubt. He has all the answers. InsyaAllah. Treasure every moment of it and let's not dwell on its negativity which may dampen and thwart our spirits from eternal freedom. No punns intended.
signed, sealed, delivered with a kiss: brownie suszy
on the 2nd demise anniversary of her beloved Grandmother
chocolate-spongecake @ 11:35 PM
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